There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make each year better than the one before it (or less bad, depending how the ending year went). That doesn’t mean you have to write a list that will in all likelihood include all your self perceived faults and failures, as well as whatever self help or “healthy living” tips you’ve heard most recently.
The best way to have a good year is not to start out feeling bad about yourself. Could you eat better, exercise more, be nicer, more charitable? Maybe, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t fine now, it simply means you would like to see the coming year as a chance to get even better.
Step one, leave out the negatives and don’t make lists. Reflect on the year thats passed, acknowledge regrets, hurts, losses and LET THEM GO. The only thing they can do in the future is hold you back. Learn from any mistakes, but never dwell on them. Remember happy moments, laughter, beauty and friendship and HOLD ON. File them away for those days you need a smile.
Now that you’ve said goodbye to the bad and filed the good for when it’s needed, it’s time to move forward. As your first act of a new year, unless your life is perfection itself, pick one thing and one thing only you’d like to do and approach it without focusing on the negative.
For example, if you’d like to eat better and loss weight, don’t beat yourself up, look for positive re-enforcement. Do you have a farmer’s market where you live thats open year round? If so, plan a weekly trip to ensure you always have fresh, healthy choices. This not only gives you a weekly outing, market’s can be a lot of fun. There’s always something new to try, great people watching potential and the opportunity to try something new food wise or even make a friend. Also consider organic and speciality stores (Italian and Mexican markets are fairly easy to find).
Use your internet time to look up delicious and healthy recipes featuring ingredients you already like. You’re more likely to try something new if it features an ingredient you enjoy. Go to the book store and look through cookbooks on different styles of food you’d like to try (Italian, Mexican, etc.). Book stores also make a great way to spend a few hours outside your home and offer opportunities to discover other things you might be interested in.
Once you’ve looked at recipes on line and in cookbooks you can pick a few things you’d like to try, make a list of ingredients and head to the market. Almost everything is better with fresh ingredients. There’s a reason in France and Italy they market daily to every two days, they only want freshness in their food and are better off for it. It’s not always affordable, but if you can try the French/Italian approach for a week or month. It will push you to find new dishes to cook and you’ll be amazed at the difference in taste freshness makes. It’s an experiment that will lead to at least a few positive new eating habits.
You can also use personal entertainment time to watch movies or read books that encourage you to try new, fresh dishes. I’d recommend “Chef” and “Tortilla Soup” for watching and “The School of Essential Ingredients” and “The Love Goddess’ Cooking School” for reading.
Obviously eating right is just one of many choices you can choose for your first personal goal. Similar methods can be used for finding new forms of exercise, crafts, hobbies, classes, trying new methods of healing or making new friends. The key is one goal at a time, no self negativity and breaking each goal into steps that involve you having to take actions that involve something new.
This brings us back to the basics of Reiki, “intention”. If you have an intention to do something, that’s half the battle.
So this year, no list of resolutions, spend the year finding solutions to issues that matter to you, one at a time. And always be ready to try something new, notice the world around you and be open to wonder (your inner child will always give you time to play if you let them).
A few years ago I never thought I would be designing and making chakra jewelry or being serious about photography, but I'm better for everything I've learned in 2015.